Do You Really Love Jesus?

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Of course I love Jesus. I’m a Christian, it’s what I do, right?

Consider this quote:

When you are truly in love, you go to great lengths to be with the one you love. You’ll drive for hours to be together, even if it’s only for a short while. You don’t mind staying up late to talk. Walking in the rain is romantic, not annoying. You’ll willingly spend a small fortune on the one you’re crazy about. When you are apart from each other, it’s painful, even miserable. He or she is all you think about; you jump at any chance to be together.

This quote accurately describes the way I act towards a girl whom I love.

This quote does not accurately describe my relationship with Jesus like I wish it did. It’s my goal and prayer to never become stagnant in my pursuit of becoming a fully devoted follower of Christ.

The quote is by Francis Chan and is from his book “Crazy Love.”

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Clay Aiken Is Gay

A recent poll from CNN.com reads:

Clay Aiken reveals he’s gay: Is the timing right?

What does that even mean??

Regardless, when does the album burning begin? How much longer until we can picket one of his concerts (does he even perform anymore??)? Somebody DESPERATELY needs to remind this young man that God hates fags (sarcastic Westboro reference - relax)!

Or we could try something new and simply love him as we love ourselves. That’s just a [radical] thought though, I know.

I am invisible. Oh yes, invisible I am.

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Secular Humanist Tenets Part 6 - Ethics

Eight weeks ago I wrote about False assumptions and how Christians suffered in the past because of them just as atheists suffer today. Atheism doesn’t have a philosophy or principles to counter these false assumptions any more than it has a philosophy or principles to deserve them. Secular humanism does put forward a set of positive traits and promotes a world view. These are:

  1. Need to test beliefs
  2. Reason, evidence, scientific method
  3. Fulfillment, growth, creativity
  4. Search for truth
  5. This life
  6. Ethics
  7. Building a better world

Ethics - A search for viable individual, social and political principles of ethical conduct, judging them on their ability to enhance human well-being and individual responsibility.

Ethics is a major branch of philosophy. I simply cannot do it credit in a brief summary and so must assume that everyone has some basic idea of what is ethical and what is not. Secular ethics are one particular branch of the larger philosophy. In short the idea of secular ethics is based on a commonality of human experience. Humans, being social animals with the same basic physical and mental processes, have similar needs and desires.

  • The pagan tribes of Norway had a greeting ‘Flag, Flax, Fodder and Frigg’ which roughly equates to a blessing for home, clothing, food and love, our basic needs as humans.
  • The Christians have the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Which is an essentially reasonable idea also known as the ethic of reciprocity that most religions adhere to in one form or another.
  • The Baha’i have “And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself.”
  • Confucius said: “Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself.” - Analects XV.24. Hindus have “That man who regards all creatures as his own self, and behaves towards them as towards his own self, laying aside the rod of chastisement and completely subjugating his wrath, succeeds in attaining to happiness”,
  • Muslims have: “Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you.”
  • Even the famous Satanist Aleister Crowley said “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law” and places the idea of Sin as a restriction binding people to certain actions. In discarding Sin satanists become free to love without bounds.

There is a commonality of ethics throughout human religion but it is clearly not bound to religion. Secular ethics are obviously not drawn from religion but are drawn from the common idea that religions enjoy. In fact the Dalai Lama said, when discussing human values like affection and compassion “We need these human values. I call these secular ethics, secular beliefs. There’s no relationship with any particular religion. Even without religion, even as nonbelievers, we have the capacity to promote these things.”

Yet some theists like to maintain that belief in gods, whether theirs or another, is a requirement for ethics and for good, moral behaviour. They claim that without heaven as a reward or hell as a punishment there can be no control on the negative actions of people. I have only one thing to say beyond the utter refutation of this: If you need to believe in God to stop you raping, murdering and stealing then I am glad that you have that belief. I do not need it because I, like most people, can act morally without regard to religion.

Beyond this basic idea that humans decide for ourselves what is ethical behaviour those who self define as secular humanists also seek to discover what actions can improve life both for themselves, for society and, by extension, the world. This could be a material improvement through sharing resources, new technology or medicine or an idea. I know it is a bit of a stereotype but we embrace the idea of science being used to make things better for ourselves. For example without agricultural techniques and machines we’d only be able to feed 1% of the current world’s population.

We also follow the very simply idea that what is good feels good to do. Helping others feels good, seeing people benefit from your aid gives us a warm glow of happiness. Doing harm to others or causing suffering feels bad so we seek to avoid it. It is a rare individual who does not have these feelings. Moreover we encourage or reinforce good behaviour in our children and peers and discourage bad behaviour if for no other reason than we want to mix with others who we can trust to help us if we ever need it.

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Joel Olsteen And Brett Farve

Joel Osteen - please change your name to “Joel Olsteen,” as the world has come to know you. I know very few people who actually call you “Osteen,” as you’d argue it’s pronounced. I promise you that Your Best Life Now will be achieved after this much needed change. :-D

Brett Favre - please change the spelling of your name to “Brett Farve,” as it is [for whatever reason] pronounced. And you should quit playing football too. I digress…another story for another blog.

Joel/Brett, if you’re reading this (which I’m sure you are - why wouldn’t you be?), please work with us here. Your surnames are in need of slight modification. You need a simple last name like me.

Please let us know when this task has been completed.

Sincerely,
Bill Cecchini (on behalf of the world, of course)

Join me in voting for Joel’s name change.

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My Finances Are Yours

About a month ago I decided that I was done making excuses - it was time for me to finally start tithing! A few paychecks and a million excuses later I’ve taken that difficult first step.

Over the past month or so, I’ve found an excuse not to tithe literally every time I’ve been paid. It seems like there’s never a “perfect time” where I have a “perfect excess” of money that I’d be “willing to part with” to “give” to God.

Finally recognizing that this perfect time is about an imaginary as the tooth fairy, I decided to make yesterday my official tithing kick-off.

Never one to do something without taking a risk, check out this crazy situation:

  1. After my tithe, I have about $40 to last me until the 22nd of this month
  2. I have a full tank of gas, but after this one runs out (a week or so?) I’ll be done
  3. I have a little bit of food left, but not a whole lot
  4. I can only be absent from school 6 times before they automatically drop me. So…
  5. If I can’t afford to put gas in my car, I can’t get to school. If I can’t get to school, I’ll be dropped.
  6. If I’m dropped, I’ll lose 50% of my current income (GI-Bill).
  7. If I lose 50% of my current income, I can’t pay my bills (rent, car payment, etc).

Fun, huh?

I wrestled with this decision for a very long time, I won’t lie. Part of my conversation with God was me flat out telling him, “I guess I just don’t trust you, God.”

Some people will argue a “you don’t have to tithe 10%.” I’m not here to debate theology.

Some people will argue, “why couldn’t you have waited until you were a little more financially secure?” I’ve waited and waited and made excuse after excuse. It had to happen now.

Some people will argue that I’m taking advantage of God and expecting him to bail me out. I wrestled with that one quite a bit. I’m confident that I’m acting in obedience and I surely do NOT subscribe to a “give a little and receive a Lexus, two mansions, and a 6-figure bank account” approach to giving.

I’ll post an update to let you know how God came through. I know he will. I’m waiting expectedly.

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Today, Not Tomorrow

When I think:

  • how much I hate my job
  • how I wish I was married
  • how I am tired of being in this “middle” phase of my life
  • how great tomorrow will be

I forget:

  • how blessed I am to be able to work only two days a week so I can focus on school
  • how much this dating phase will help a potential marriage
  • how I’m being groomed, educated, shaped, and molded for the rest of my life
  • how great today is/can still be

When we focus on what we don’t have, we can easily lose sight of what we do have. Even worse, we’ll soon find ourselves as unappreciative and ungrateful.

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Secular Humanist Tenets Part 5 - This Life

Six weeks ago I wrote about false assumptions and how Christians suffered in the past because of them just as atheists suffer today. Atheism doesn’t have a philosophy or principles to counter these false assumptions any more than it has a philosophy or principles to deserve them. Secular humanism does put forward a set of positive traits and promotes a world view. These are:

  1. Need to test beliefs
  2. Reason, evidence, scientific method
  3. Fulfillment, growth, creativity
  4. Search for truth
  5. This life
  6. Ethics
  7. Building a better world

This life – A concern for this life and a commitment to making it meaningful through better understanding of ourselves, our history, our intellectual and artistic achievements, and the outlooks of those who differ from us. Read the rest of this entry »

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FriendlyChristian.com Hiatus

Last week school started. Last week school officially began whoopin’ my bee-hind. 

My goal is to finish my biology degree (extremely difficult for me) and to pursue grad school for a career as a Physician Assistant. I feel God leading my in a very specific direction within that career, but as for now I’m just gonna take it one step at a time.

I love this site - always have and always will. As for now, though, I have to prioritize. Anatomy & Physiology, Organic Chemistry I and II, Microbiology, Cell Biology, Calc, Stats, etc are requiring much more time and effort from me than I’m used to putting into school. As a result, starting today my posts on FriendlyChristian.com will be limited. My initial thought was to close down shop. Although that may eventually happen, for now I’ll leave the site open and perhaps make a short post from time to time. God willing, eventually I’ll return to FC as a fully committed blogger. We’ll see.

As I’ve tried my best to do with this site, I want to invest all of me into the vision that God gives me. For now, that vision is to become the best darn PA that I can.

Thank you all soooooo much for all you’ve done. You guys have influenced thousands upon thousands of readers. Most importantly (for me), you’ve played a very important role in my life. And for that, I’m forever grateful.

Want to stay in touch? Add me as a friend on Facebook or Follow me on Twitter.

Shalom,
Bill

ps - hov, feel free to continue posting

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Connections

I want to try an experiment.  Mike spoke about spirituality last week last week and about how it is difficult to explain and understand.  I see spirituality as a connection to something greater that yourself, a way of being more that just the one human mind in your head.  This experiment requires a little creativity on my part and some expenditure of effort on the part of the reader.  Please bear with me.

Imagine that you’re in a rowing boat on a lake.

It’s summer, early in the morning.  The sun is barely breaking through the landscape and long, tiger stripes of shadow punctuate the light.  The rays warm your skin as you drift serenely through them.  The shadows are cool but not chilly as you pass through the slices of day and night in the early dawn.  You can hear the clear, sharp, clean sound of birds singing.  There’s no background susurrus of daytime sounds yet, just the birds and the soft slosh of mini waves as they push against the sides of the boat.

You reach over the side and the shock of cold water kisses your skin.  The bob of the lake rolling beneath the boat plays across your knuckles.  A chilly rhythm of water.  Languidly you pull your arm back enjoying the hint of an ache in your fingers.  Holding out your hand, you close your eyes and feel the cling of water resist the gentle pull of gravity as the liquid finds pathways across your skin.  They fluidly build themselves into droplets and, when heavy enough, they fall.  Each drop taps. Tap.  A new sound in the arena.

Now, right on that tap - stop.  Stop imagining.  Here is the real game.  This is the thing that is overlooked while being obvious and frightening at the same time:  the lake in my head, the same lake I was imagining.  That lake has become the lake in your head.  It doesn’t matter that you never know me, or never know anything about me.  In a thousand years after I’m dead, if language can carry this message forward it won’t matter.  Think carefully on this, beyond the obvious sense to the huge and amazing miracle hidden inside.  The lake in my head has become the lake in your head.

Behind the one hundred and ninety words that make up my description there is some kind of flow.  A stream of pure conception.  Something with no mass, no matter, no gravity and beyond time itself.  A stream of consciousness that can only be seen if we choose to look beyond the words, beyond the meaning and into the process itself.  Look at it at just the right angle and you’ll see my imaginary lake becoming yours.  We have made a connection that might be described as spiritual.  Maybe but not yet.  For that we need to go a little further.

Next try to visualise all those streams of human interaction.  All those communication links where imagination is passed from one mind to another.  Linking in and out and between people.  Not just the lake in the description but every concept, every idea that is shared and transformed and shared again.  Every text, every picture, each bar of music, every spoken word, knowing look, smile or tear.  Streams through casual contact, shared memories, witnessed events, past and future touching, cause meeting effect in billions of different ways.  Try to imagine this immense latticework of lakes and flowing streams, grasp a sense of it’s vastness and awesome complexity. The reach of this is nearly infinite and yet it remains rich with every experience that humanity has chosen to share.  This waterway of conceptual paradise mixing all information, all identities, all societies and selves forever and beyond time and space.  More than any single mind can hope to grasp.

Spirituality for me is when I catch a glimpse of that vast connectivity.  Some might call it God but for me it just doesn’t have words that are adequate.  It is my hope that this experiment has let you share it with me, even if just for a moment.  Let me know what you think.

Back to Secular humanism next week.

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10 Highlights From 10 Days In Nicaragua (Conservatives Beware)

The Nicaraguan church that we worked with had concrete floors, plastic lawn chairs for seating, oscillating fans as an a/c substitute, and a garden hose tied to a sink as a source of running water. 

As the worship band warmed up on stage before the Thursday night service, naturally, my expectations were low.

The worship band was, and I exaggerate not, louder than any concert that I’ve ever been to. Literally. I almost had to sit down a few times. 

The music was CRANKIN. I looked around…nobody was putting on a show. These people who had nothing were singing out to God…eyes closed…hands raised…giving thanks…praising…joyful.

I wonder what Mr. “church music should only consist of a piano and a hymn book that smells like moth balls” would have thought about this experience.

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