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One of my favorite bloggers/[tag]pastor[/tag]s, [tag]Mark Batterson[/tag], just wrapped up a message series entitled “[tag]The Elephant In The Church[/tag].” I love his approach to honesty. I watched the intro video to the sermon. A phrase splashed onto the screen:
Everybody’s thinking it…but nobody is saying it.
As I often remind my friends/family, I have been blessed/cursed with the inability to ignore the “Elephant.” I acknowledge the “nobody is saying it” part. I study the “nobody is saying it.” I say the “nobody is saying it.” I just have to!
Many [tag]Atheists[/tag]/former [tag]Christians [/tag]have written about “The [tag]Friendly Christian[/tag] who is about to walk away from Christianity.” They are reminded about the time that they “started asking the hard questions only to uncover the falsehood of [tag]Christianity[/tag].” Let’s get something straight, my faith is stronger than it’s ever been.
I want to challenge you to join me in not taking an idiot’s approach to Christianity.
Let me explain:
Let’s say you are in the market for a new vehicle. Do you head over to your local dealership, close your eyes, spin around, point, and sign the papers on whatever vehicle you randomly pointed at? No! You do your homework. You learn about warranties. You look at things such as gas mileage, reliability, how well the car holds it’s value, etc. You make an informed decision.
I feel that our approach to Christianity should be the same. Study! Challenge yourself! Allow yourself to ask the tough questions. Allow [tag]God [/tag]to do big God things.
If you’ve ever honestly approached the Bible or God, you’ve come across things that bothered you. Why did God kill “innocent” people in the [tag]Old Testament[/tag]? Why didn’t God answer my [tag]prayer[/tag]? Why does the church spend money on itself rather than giving it to the community? Why do bad things happen to good people? Why does God seem so hypocritical? The questions/concerns could go on forever.
Ask the tough questions! The elephant is in the room. Acknowledge it. You’re already acknowledging it in your head. Why continue to lie with your lips? Christians: God knows your thoughts, right? Who are we trying to fool??
Listen, I’m all about faith, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that there’s gonna be a rational explanation for everything presented in the Bible. I love the fact that God can/will do some things have absolutely no human explanation.
I also understand that this is the way that I think, not necessarily the way that all Christians think. I’ve had this discussion with large groups of Christians before, only to realize that most believers don’t feel as strongly about this as I do. More specifically, many believers don’t ever even think this way…which is literally beyond MY rational way of thinking.
So whaddya think? Blessed or cursed?
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Bill you certainly are amongst the most interesting Christians I have ever met.
I had the same questions, I couldn’t reconcile the world I perceived around me with the God of the Bible. Something had to give…
While I continue to say that I don’t believe that the God of the Bible exists. I base this conclusion on my observations of the workings of the world revealed to me by my senses and the contradictory statements of the Bible.
This does NOT mean I have proved that NO Gods exist.
I have spent the last 20 years of my life trying to find a Christian teacher or preacher to answer my nagging questions without resorting to sophistry or appeals to Pascals Wager et al.
I haven’t found adequate answers.
Perhaps I am incapable of the ‘relationship’ that Gods Gal speaks so eloquently of.
(She’s probably gonna slap me hard for that
)
Robert
Robert: Consider yourself smacked hard. Several times…..
As long as you continue to settle and call it seeking, you’re right, you will be incapable of a relationship with Him. The scientific term would be Ignoramous Maximous. :*
Bill, do you think we have not tackled hard issues? I’m going to go back and re read…..My faith has been strengthened beyond where it has ever been with the discussions here….
@GG…
I think we’ve done a great job so far!
@Gods Gal
As I suspected a hard smack followed by a kiss!

R
Great post regardless of your stance. I admire Christians with rationality in their convictions. Although I can’t, personally, understand how logic and faith can live in harmony.
This post was me 6-7 years ago. Right before the elephant in the room kicked my imaginary friend called faith in the a$$.
I’ve been truly blessed ever since.
@Bill,
I agree. I love the mystery part of it. I was writing to a friend this weekend about once hearing the word “faith” also described as “risk”. I like that. I agree, it’s risky. There are a lot of things I can’t explain about God. There are as many things that can not be explained in Science and that leaves me in awe as well. Not one person will have all the answers no matter what side of the camp you’re on.
@Bill
“Study! Challenge yourself! Allow yourself to ask the tough questions.”
I think this statement is true no matter what you place your faith in. I don’t see this as questioning the existence of God.
I have faith in science. I don’t have unquestioning faith in scientist or in all actions being taken in the name of science.
Thousands, millions, of people have been killed in the name of God and in the name of science.
My perception is that the discipline of science requires a more questioning mind than that of religion. I think a scientist needs to start with the idea that every theory they have been taught may be wrong. Where as a member of a religion, I would think, must believe all the basic tenants of their religion are true.
A question for my Christian friends. To what degree do you believe everything your pastor tells in their sermons?
Religious leaders are just humans like the rest of us. They have the same weakness, and are subject to the same temptations, as everyone else. If you are a member of a religion you must have some degree of faith in it’s leaders, but that doesn’t mean unquestioning faith.
If your pastor starts riding around in a new BMW I would check the church accounts pretty quick. :).
Ed says,
I am glad you asked this. Every person, Pastor/Leader included needs to be held accountable. The Bible speaks to this, saying to test everything we hear against scripture and God’s teaching.
People tend to live religiously. They go to church, because the act of going to church is considered the Christian thing to do. People own a Bible or pray, cause it’s the right thing to do. The church in general has encouraged people who depend upon the institution to either learn or feel good about themselves. People are comfortable enough to just come and essentially be couch potato’s in the church. This is when it can get dangerous. This is when leaders can manipulate and abuse. There is no personal responsibility from those listening and in returning those leading.
The key here is the dependence. The church is not in the business of maintaining, but instead it should be encouraging, edifying and releasing(the Bible teaches this). In not being “dependent on the institution, people will inevitably question and approve what they hear and are taught. This is good. This holds teachers and leaders accountable. It strengthens individual learning and experience. It also encourages people to get “out of the pews” and serve their communities.
[...] yesterday’s post Ed asked A question for my Christian friends. To what degree do you believe everything your pastor [...]
rock on
Well, if you stay in the faith (and it sounds like that is very likely) you are defnitely cursed.
You are going to be one frustrated dude. I had all those questions and more since childhood and the only thing I got in terms of answers were impatient non-sequitors that didn’t even come close to addressing my questions or stern, suspicious looks. Researching for myself turned up nothing satisfactory…in the long run.
Hey Polly
I hear ya about being frustrated. I’ve been away from God, and I don’t ever want to go back there! As much as I may get frustrated, I go to bed & wake up every day knowing that it’s all worth it.
To me, that is.